RELATIONSHIP
RED  FLAGS
The Ultimate Guide
Abuse in relationship is the most predictable crime in society,
yet it is raging like an out of control wildfire.
This is the fire hose...
       
          On a beautiful spring day, Anna received an e-mail from a man in another state who introduced himself as a family man and fellow horse lover. E-mails turned to phone calls and soon a compelling correspondence evolved. Eleven weeks later, when she finally met him face to face, he was everything she’d hoped for, and more. In fact, she thought he was the man of her dreams. On the last day of her visit, under a big elm he surprised her with a proposal. The first red flags were already fluttering in the wind, but she didn't notice them.

         A few months later, they married beside a garden of antique roses.
Thus began an intrigue that would lead to experiences Anna never expected and consequences she could not have imagined. More red flags were showing up, but she still didn't know what they were or what they meant.

          A week into their honeymoon on the other side of the world, Anna got a taste of what lay ahead. Her new husband's behavior became dark, disturbing and unpredictable. The next spring, relocated to a new state and no longer working, she found that things were not at all as she'd been led to believe. Month by month, the walls were closing in and Anna began to face the fact that she’d made a terrible mistake….



Warning ... Warning ... Warning ... Warning

         If you've experienced abuse in relationship, chances are you'll experience it again. Why? Three reasons:
  1. You're attractive to social predators (this is also known as "ideal prey")
  2. Like most other people, you don't know the warning signs of relationship violence
  3. Something inside you makes you vulnerable to their powers of influence and charm.
Abusive men do have a secret language of sorts, and until you learn about it, you're at risk!
       
        The reality of what they do to their partners includes elements of fraud, brainwashing, deprivation, imprisonment, kidnapping, battery, rape, theft, torture and in many cases, murder. 

        The simple fact is that relationship violence is the fastest growing social plague in the world. And the consequences for not knowing how to identify and avoid violent entanglements are becoming increasingly dangerous as the frequency and ferocity of abuse increase.

        Contrary to popular opinion, abuse is no respecter of persons. It happens to every kind of woman, to every part of her life and to every part of her body. It happens to the uninformed in every socio-economic strata of society and it can happen to you.

        Some of the most amazing women in the world have been abused; some as unknown girls, some as normal teenagers, some as celebrated adults adored by millions ...

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What Others Have to Say

"I have worked for a Domestic Violence program for 12 years. I met Anna while she was still living with her (now former) husband...

"Education is prevention. Women and girls need this information, so they can learn about the red flags, and use that discernment to seek happy, healthy relationships.

"I don’t see any other way to cure this worldwide plague. The reality is that if society continues to ignore this problem, it will continue to escalate because that is the nature of the thing. Education is the key to real change.

This book is an excellent resource and I am glad to have been a part of Anna’s journey."

Stephanie Capps, MSW
from the Foreword




“The last thing I expected was to be uplifted by a book on this subject, but I was. We can only imagine what Ms Moss went through because she doesn’t tell us. Instead she has sifted her experience to produce a map for us for the sometimes rocky road of relationships. A valuable work of uncommon insight and great compassion.”

Smith Varner

Chicago, Illinois



"An easy-to-read guide that shows many aspects of abuse before, during and after the experience. Behaviors and warning signs are described in all their guises and in detail. Resources are offered for moving forward to reclaim the joy of living. An informative, satisfying and deeply helpful book for thinking people."

Rita Davenport, President

Arbonne International
Irvine, California





"Deception is insulting. Exploitation is ruthless. In combination, they are totally unacceptable and unforgivable. An important read about the slippery slope of relationships from first-hand experience. A hand up to the abused and a wake up call to all."

A Dad

Name & Location Withheld



"Gripping! I wish I had had access to this information before my marriage.  This book would have given me the information I needed to be able to see the red flags in my life at that time and to understand what they meant. It would have enabled me to act sooner, and by so doing, saved the lives of my beloved pets as well.

"As an educator, I strongly feel that this is a “must read” for all young women today—especially in light of the increasing rate of abuse being reported in the news.


"It is time for all of us to take our heads out of the clouds and face this reality in our society. I give this book 5 stars for its important message and incredible timing."


Joyce E. Dooley, MEd

Florence, Kentucky



"The warning signs of abuse revealed by an unflinching look back at a savage marriage. The dots she connects between early childhood experience and adult pathology should give us all pause. If every reader took this information to heart, we could waken to a better society in this lifetime. I wonder if Anna Moss realizes what she has done here."

Jayne Layne, MFA

New York, New York



“Even in the beginning of a con, your reality is already being messed with. And you’re made to think you’re the one who’s crazy. The con behind abuse is unfair, unkind, untrue, unethical and yet it is ubiquitous. It happens every day. It has got to stop. This book is ESSENTIAL reading.”

Jody Petersen

Victor, Idaho



"Very thought-provoking and comprehensive. Provides the reader with detailed behaviors that can be utilized to assess relationship dynamics. Appropriate for
individuals assessing their personal relationships and professionals providing case management or therapeutic services."
 
Angela R. Ausbrooks, PhD, LMSW
Texas State University, San Marcos



"Don’t be fooled by the size of this book. It’s big medicine and deserves a careful read. Anna Moss didn’t think it could happen to her. We all think that. But it does happen and in alarming numbers. This information could save untold private suffering and public resources." 

N C Jules

Denver, Colorado



"A safety manual for thinking people. Not melodrama or soap opera, but real facts from real life. Logic and reason do not apply in the world of abuse—it IS like being on another planet. I wish this had been written long ago. It would have spared me. But it still gives solace and understanding, even now. A must read."

Denise Enright

Washington, Indiana



"Real, insightful, compassionate, powerful, personal, moving, inspiring, practical, clear, needed, eye-opening."

Emily Lowndes

Addison, Texas



"Brilliant! It made me cry and gave me hope and educated me all in one. This book needs to be read by every woman."

Tammy Rosales

Walton, Kentucky



"Anna writes knowingly and brilliantly about what it is like to be in a relationship with an abusive male.

"Unfortunately for her, she was unsuspecting of the radical painful life change this would bring her. Fortunately for both her and the world, she had knowledge of what a quality, loving relationship should be like. This allowed her experience to be shortened over the usual protracted tangle of emotions, spiritual despair and shipwreck of dreams.

"Thus she is able to draw on an almost pure experience of this living hell, while giving a crisp perspective of ways to extricate oneself from the maze. Would that all women in these circumstances could be such ‘a force to be reckoned with’."

Linda C Thiering, PhD

Austin, Texas



Anna Moss writes for the 15+ million women who get taken in abusive relationships every year.

        She has been heard on radio and published worldwide. Anna is the rare speaker who blends the individual and the social to reveal the role of adversity in ultimate triumph. Her signature topics include:

+   The Deep: Looking and Seeing, Knowing and Doing, Learning and Understanding

+  
The Hidden Power of Adversity: Redefining and Unleashing Your Potential

+   Reading People: Learning Who to Avoid and Who to Encourage

+   It's Your Turn Now: Recharting Your Future


Anna travels from Jackson, Wyoming. Her speaking and workshop fee minimum is 5,000 USD for travel within North America and 15,000 USD abroad.


"This is a wake-up call for anybody that is in an abusive relationship at any level." Phil McGraw

These powerful words were spoken during the premiere of the ninth season of the Dr. Phil Show, which he dedicated "to ending the silence on domestic violence".

      
What Do I Need to Know About Abuse in Relationships and Why?


        You need to know that some unhealthy relationships are abusive relationships, and that they're all around you. Red flags are warning signs. They're hard to see and harder to believe. They may be large or small, loud or quiet, hidden or in plain sight. Red flags warn of behaviors that mask intent, that are meant to mislead you.

        The first three that usually show up are promising, rushing and isolating.         
        It goes like this
: you meet a man, you fall for him, he falls for you, things fall into place. It feels good, it feels right. He wants to be with you immediately. He wants you now. He promises to give you the world. And it's all very urgent...

       
What happens when you rush? You miss crucial details. You get robbed of the time you need to process your thoughts and feelings. You get separated from your gut. What happens when you rush is that you mistake longing for love and intention for integrity.

        You believe him and you trust him. You make changes here and there, until one day you realize you have been isolated from others and you have made some huge compromises. You also realize he's not following through and keeping his word. Your needs aren't being met and the relationship is frighteningly out of balance.

       You have entered the bizarre and surreal world of abuse in relationship, and you are the target.

       


How Big Is The Problem?

         Relationship violence strikes as many women as cancer; it is the fastest growing plague on the planet. Indeed, it has become the other cancer.

       Everyday, well-meaning but uninformed friends, judges, pastors and therapists give advice to women that further endangers them. Why? Because what works in a normal relationship does not work in an abusive one. 

       
If the warning signs were plain to see and the agenda was easy to escape, 21,960 women would not be stalked, assaulted, beaten, defrauded, raped or murdered by their intimate partners every day. That statistic comes from the American Medical Association; the CDC, DOJ and NIH collect and vet the numbers, too:
  • In her lifetime, one woman in three (that's 50+ million) will become compromised or trapped in an abusive relationship.

  • At this very moment, one female in 10 (that's 15+ million) is contending with some form of abuse or exploitation at home, work or school.

  • The leading cause of injury to females aged 14 to 44 is her husband, boyfriend or intimate partner.

  • The second target group now emerging is women over 60, especially those with socioeconomic means that can be exploited.
        Abuse in relationship becomes preventable only when you know what to look for and how to see through the perpetrator's persona.


What Do I Need to Learn?

         RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS by Anna Moss decodes 37 classic red flags. It takes you from first contact through courtship through marriage to the bitter end. This book is not the author's story, rather, it is a guide for women that reveals the anatomy of an abusive relationship.

        You will see the con and consequences. You will read graphic examples of a master abuser in action. Most importantly, you will learn what red flags look like from benign first appearance to later horror. You will acquire understanding that allows you to peer through the veil and:
  • See the insatiable need that drives an abuser 
  • Learn the key elements of entrapment
  • Find out what abusers look for in a woman
  • See how children and animals are also at risk 
  • Learn how to see through personas
  • Discern the tell-tale habits and mind games of abusers
  • Understand the forms and spectrum of abusive behavior
  • Know what makes you most vulnerable 
  • Grasp why an abuser is effective but impersonal in bed
  • Learn how you may be able to predict acts of violence  
  • Know when you are at the greatest risk 
    
        There's a big difference between information and discernment, between knowing and doing. And in the realm of an intimate relationship, it can be the difference between living and dying. At school or work, it can be the difference between success and failure. It's like the difference between a lightning bug and lightning!

        Relationships are as unique as the individuals in them, but the hallmarks of abusive relationships are universal. The traps and tricks that abusers use are also counter-intuitive. This book brings encouragement, insight and concrete information to the girl or woman who is:
  • worried about the nature of her present relationship
  • struggling with a relationship at school or work
  • repeatedly choosing abusive men
  • being harassed or stalked by a former partner
        Once you develop discernment and learn how to see through a con, you can prevent and even predict abuse from befalling you or someone you care about.
     

How Can I Tell If I Could Be In Danger?

        Here's a short relationship quiz. Does your partner…
  1. Seem a little too good to be true at first?
  2. Accept it when you say “no”?
  3. Seem overly interested in what you do?
  4. Take responsibility for his behavior?
  5. Question your attachments to people or pets?
  6. Speak well of others when they’re not present?
  7. Criticize your character instead of your behavior?
  8. Blame himself for any problems in the relationship?
  9. Make sweeping statements about what your future holds? 
       Every YES answer to an odd-numbered question indicates a red flag. Every NO answer to an even-numbered question indicates a red flag.

        So, now what? You're with a man and you see clear signs of abuse in your relationship with him. How do you get hold of yourself, reign in your emotions, put your hopes and dreams back in your heart and do what you need to do?
Think about what your relationship could do to the other people in your life.


What Are The Consequences of Not Knowing?

         Every abusive relationship, whether mildly or severely damaging, produces a domino effect of far-reaching consequences. The dominoes fall on many lives for many years. The consequences can knock you off your feet momentarily or they can pull you down into circumstances from which you might never recover.

       
The experience of abuse can:
  • Ruin your health
  • Traumatize your dependents
  • Derail your career
  • Drain your bank account
  • Interfere with your personal friendships
  • Destroy your professional network
  • Crush your dreams
  • Rob you of the joy of living
  • Put you out on the street
        For every woman who is mistreated, there are countless others who also pay a price along with her: her children, her animals, her family, her employer, her co-workers, her friends and neighbors.

        Businesses pay for it. Taxpayers feel it, too. The personal and public consequences are horrendous, some are unutterable. It doesn't have to happen to you. With knowledge and understanding, these experiences can be avoided or foreshortened.

        Abusive relationships are counterfeit experiences full of counter-intuitive behaviors, that's why it's so hard for the uninitiated to understand them. They're not rocket science, but they do require specialized knowledge. The warning signs have been decoded and they can be learned. And this knowledge can be applied to relationships in other arenas.

         The first step is learning.

         The next step is up to you.



Why Aren't the Warning Signs More Widely Known?

       That's a good question and it's one of the reasons Anna wrote her book.

        There are good people in this world, but there are monsters, too. They walk on two legs and look just like you and me. They're articulate, interesting, mobile and socially active. The most dangerous are often very attractive, charming and successful. Many are in positions of influence, like Ted Bundy, O.J. Simpson, Ike Turner, Mike Tyson, Alec Baldwin, Bobby Brown, Charlie Sheen, Chris Brown, Jesse James, Tiger Woods and others.

       You can't tell what they are by how they look, which is one reason they succeed in capturing one woman in three.
Another reason is that they're good at what they do and they get better at it every day.

        Remember, the main reason these monsters succeed is because too few of us are on to them. Well, that's about to change. Accessible, real, detailed information has been too hard to find. No more. Here it is.



Only You Can Protect Yourself

          Get the book that's opening eyes and saving lives.

        Saxony Hill Press is pleased to present RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS. Its pages will take you step-by-step through the process that will:
  • equip you to spot abusive relationship signs
  • show you what they mean and where they could lead
  • give you tools for relationship and self assessment
  • help you see the reason a predator picked you
  • reveal the personas, ruses and tricks to watch out for
  • teach you learn how to "read people"
  • provide you with resources for help, information and options
  • encourage you every step of the way
        The 244-page second edition of RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS by Anna Moss is available in digital format (originally 37.00) for 19.97 USD.




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  • "263 Ways to Spot an Abuser"
    Real-world examples of acts, habits and words that dangerous men use to ensnare the uninformed in abusive relationships. Keep it for yourself, give it to a friend or loved one who is being exploited at home, at work or at school. Forewarned is forearmed.

  • "The Most Dangerous Day"
    More women are murdered, raped and stalked at this time than any other during the relationship. Find out when you're at greatest risk and how to beat the odds. Crucially important reading.
  • "Is He a Psychopath?"
    It's a fact that some abusers possess the same traits as psychopaths. This report will scare you, but it will also give you the definitive information you need to get safe.
       
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The Next Book in the Red Flags Series is Here!

         "You have lived through the unthinkable and escaped it. Good for you. Now, it's time to release the negativity that burrowed into your subconscious, your nervous system, your soul. The lessons you've learned are about to become your greatest assets. Do this work and you will change your life and much more."

         COMING BACK BETTER reveals how everyday women can rebound from tragedy, get another chance and create a new life that is bigger, richer and sweeter than you'd dared to dream. This journey shows you how to recognize and release the lies you've accepted and then renew yourself at the core with what you want, not what you'd settle for.

        The Moss Method offers focused, interactive self action based on immutable laws of healing. Written for women who want to help themselves move forward. COMING BACK BETTER reveals a 20-step program for feeling better, getting stronger and coming back to life every day. 


     


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