"When a man loves you, he wants you to be free; when he can't love, he wants you on a leash."
dynamics at work in "those" relationships
could be represented like this:
control + weak self image = relationship abuse/domestic
antidote for dangerous relationships
begins with relationship literacy, which could be
expressed like so:
knowledge of warning
signs + strong self image = healthy
As women, we have relationship encoded in our DNA. But this
alone is not enough, there is something else we need to have a high
quality life worth living--relationship
But if you look at the staggering number of women and girls who get taken down by bullying, teen dating abuse, domestic abuse, family violence, sexual harassment and stalking, you'll see that the precious knowledge of relationship literacy is rare.
Tragically, relationship illiteracy is the norm. It leads to stultifying, unhealthy, unstatisfying entanglements that wreak havoc and worse. Relationship illiteracy shows up in attitudes and statements like these:
According to international threat assessment expert and
bestselling author Gavin de Becker
"men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them."
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When you don't know what to look for, relationship red flags are
hard to see and harder to believe.
They are warning signs that tell you something is amiss and
things are not as they appear. They are meant to
disarm and mislead you so that
you will get engaged and lower your
They may be obvious or subtle. You may see them or just sense
them. They may in plain sight or deliberately hidden from view.
Once you understand the core principles at work in domestic
abuse and other relationship abuse, you can spot red flags at a
safe distance. It's not rocket science but it is counter
When you don't know how predators operate and you trust the wrong person, chances are, you won't realize you're in trouble until it's too late.
It is far easier to avoid dangerous relationships such
as dating abuse or domestic violence than it is to escape
“Approximately 1/3 of the men counseled for battering are professional men who are well respected in their jobs and in their communities. These have included doctors, lawyers, ministers and executives.”
~ David Adams
"Identifying the Assaultive Husband in Court"
The Boston Bar Journal
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