"One of the ways an abuser gains intimate access
in the first place is by mirroring you back to yourself.
This is a powerful hypnotic technique. It does two things, it leads
you to believe that he gets you and it puts you into a
As he wins your trust, you begin to share your
innermost thoughts and feelings never dreaming that these
confidences will later be used against you. His reactions never
lead you to believe that when it serves him, you will be attacked
for being you, but that is what happens.
The amount of damage that can be done once the abuser is “in” your life is not to be underestimated. For those who have not observed what a pathological person can do, it is unbelievable. This is part of how they get away with it: it is unbelievable.
The abuser’s techniques allow him to draw power from his prey while she is in an unguarded state—like a vampire sinking his teeth into the exposed jugular of a sleeping woman."
"If you give me any problem in America I can trace it to domestic violence. It is the cradle of most problems: economic, psychological, educational."
Actress, Wife, Mother
"RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS provides a personality
trait checklist that left me speechless... I thank this book for
giving me a full understanding of the depths of hell that I was in,
explaining to me in great detail why I was "chosen" by this abuser,
and giving me the comfort, confidence and tools to make a complete
recovery and ultimately ensuring me that it is okay for me to still
feel the way that I do. I truly stumbled across this gem of a book
and know that the completion of reading it was the start of my
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