Book excerpt:

"One of the ways an abuser gains intimate access in the first place is by mirroring you back to yourself. This is a powerful hypnotic technique. It does two things, it leads you to believe that he gets you and it puts you into a trance.

As he wins your trust, you begin to share your innermost thoughts and feelings never dreaming that these confidences will later be used against you. His reactions never lead you to believe that when it serves him, you will be attacked for being you, but that is what happens.

The amount of damage that can be done once the abuser is “in” your life is not to be underestimated. For those who have not observed what a pathological person can do, it is unbelievable. This is part of how they get away with it: it is unbelievable.

The abuser’s techniques allow him to draw power from his prey while she is in an unguarded state—like a vampire sinking his teeth into the exposed jugular of a sleeping woman."

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"If you give me any problem in America I can trace it to domestic violence. It is the cradle of most problems: economic, psychological, educational."  

Salma Hayek

Actress, Wife, Mother

"RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS provides a personality trait checklist that left me speechless... I thank this book for giving me a full understanding of the depths of hell that I was in, explaining to me in great detail why I was "chosen" by this abuser, and giving me the comfort, confidence and tools to make a complete recovery and ultimately ensuring me that it is okay for me to still feel the way that I do. I truly stumbled across this gem of a book and know that the completion of reading it was the start of my healing process."

Brittany Baird

United States